The " Mother in law"

Ok let me first start this by saying that I am in NO way trying to offend anyone and completley understand that not everyone falls into this category or has a situation like this. Some people are very lucky and get along with their signifcant others family.....I on the other do not! I have the pleasure of having a very pushy, overbearing, hardheaded, manipulative, cant cut the umbilical cord mother in law! If you are in the same situation or have been in the same situation.....I have just one question...HOW DO YOU DEAL?!?!?!?!


Now I could spend for ever on here going over all the crazy situations but I will give just a few brief examples! For starters how she feels about me.....I single handly destroyed her family, I took her son away, oh and I apperently am to blame for him joining the army and ruining his life. Now let me start by saying how sad and very upset this makes me! I am extremely PROUD of my husband and HIS career choice! It is not this easiest choice for all parties involved and it means spending alot of time away from each other...but I feel that it is worth it because He is happy and he feels that he is doing something very important and I feel the same way! I come from a very long line of military members but I am proud to say that my husband made this choice 100 % on his own and of his own will!  Also she has a very hard time excepting the answer no. She does things that are very backhanded and only so she can hold them over other peoples heads! Especially when it comes to me!Also she is very overbearing and still tries to baby my husband which drives me absolutely nuts!! He is 24 and will be 25 when he gets home...and I am 23 we are grown adults and capable of taking care of ourselves...she should be proud of the accomplishment of raising a son who can be on his own....or am I just crazy!

I try as hard as I can to be patient with her and to try and get along with her for the sake of my hubby! But its been 3 years total with a year of marraige and I just cant deal anymore I am so stressed out already with my hubbys deployment and all the little things that go along with that...dealing with her does not help...so anyone have any suggestions because I just dont know what to do anymore???

Also she thinks she is coming to vist so she can be here when he gets back from deployment!!! Now I dont mind if they come to visit he is there son but I feel like this is my time! and she should come at a later date! what about you??